By Tracy Steffenson
I have been called a feminist by many people over the years, and I am proud to say that I am one. Not the “burn our bras” type but more the “I don’t have to have anyone to get things done” type. I wish that more people would step into this mind set and realize that life is not a fairy tale, and this goes for the guys out there as well.
Yes there are those of us who have found our knights in shinning armor (or princess) but they are not the same as Sleeping Beauty’s knight or Sleeping Beauty herself. They don’t slay dragons and go after the wicked witch, they don’t stand quietly by waiting for you to need something, but they do protect us, love us and listen to us, most of the time.
The youth of today seems to think that these, and other fairy tales are really the way life is. Think of what you want and “POOF” there it is. That is so far from how real life works that it almost makes you laugh until the point you want to cry. To get what you want out of life you have to work hard, be a good person, be dedicated and except your mistakes.
It is no wonder, however, why the 80’s generation (and the generation spawned by them) has a delusional view of how life is really supposed to be. Females wait for their prince to stroll through the door and save them, guys hanging out on a couch doing nothing all day but watching T.V. making it by. Forget that. Save yourselves because if you want anything out of life, you have to be willing to put in the work.
Look at the role models that we had. For the girls it were cartoons like Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella, Jem and the Holograms and She-Ra. These women ran from their problems or did nothing to better their situation, until someone else came and saved them or they had something magical helping them out. And for the guys out there: Beavis and Butthead, He-Man and Popeye. Oh that is a great set of roll models. We have the couch guys, a dude that can do anything with a weapon and a dude that eats something and becomes unstoppable.
You can’t just sit idly by and have things handed to you just because you want them or think you deserve them (well most of us can’t anyway). You have to get up off of your backsides and go get what you want. And I am in no way telling you to steal it. I mean get out and work for it. You want a knight in shinning armor, be the kind of person who deserves to have a great person by your side. You want to have expensive things, work and save your money to buy them. I think you get my point.
It is time for us to break away from the stereotypes that have been placed on the younger generations and actually do something with our lives besides make everyone else's miserable. And I don’t necessarily just mean 30 years and younger, although there is where most of the problem are, I am talking about anyone that this fits. Heck they could be in their 40’s, 50’s or even 60’s and still acting like this.
It is time for individuals to start benefiting society instead of taking away and devastating things that other are trying to achieve. Then when you find the one guy that would have saved you (or the woman who would have waited on you hand and foot), they don’t have to and you are a more independent and successful individual.